WHAT IS THE TRUE DEFINITION OF VIOLENCE AND ABUSE?

WHAT IS THE TRUE DEFINITION OF VIOLENCE AND ABUSE?

I am OUTRAGED when there is any human being or any other living creature that is forced to endure or witnessed suffering through violence and abuse. Maybe this time in our history is a wake-up call for all of us to address the atrocities that occur each and every day all over the world to people from different cultures, races, gender, and most of all of the children.  The innocent are those who have no choice, no voice, and their only method of survival is dependent on the people that abuse them.  This is a universal dilemma on multiple levels; the current events are devastating and the incidents happening everywhere have an enormous impact; especially on children.  Would it be possible to just go back and think about when you were a child?  All you wanted was to be safe and secure and

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HAPPINESS = REALITY minus EXPECTATIONS

HAPPINESS = REALITY minus EXPECTATIONS

In response to the rapidly changing and uncertain times, I want to continue to offer you content that is useful, applicable and appropriate to what we’re all going through right now. I would like to provide useful information to help see you through this difficult time and empower you to nurture connection within yourself, and with friends, family, colleagues, and the greater world, even as we remain physically isolated. The recent health events have shaken many of our personal foundations because the greater social structure on which we depend upon is no longer safely in place. We are certainly living in uncertain times and we can’t do what humans love to do and that is to predict. When we feel we can predict, we feel more in control. Here is a great visual example that will remind us of the fact we ALL

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ARE YOU WAITING ON THE WORLD TO CHANGE?

ARE YOU WAITING ON THE WORLD TO CHANGE?

THE PSYCHOLOGY TO FREEDOM Are you ready to escape the prison of your own mind? We can be our own jailers or we can be our own liberators, which one would you choose? As I read the following quote from Dr. Edith Eva Eger’s book; The Choice, Embrace the Possible, I felt an immediate sense of empowerment because as a Holocaust survivor who endured unspeakable horrors and brutality, Dr. Eger decided to transform her suffering into a powerful gift—one she uses to help others heal. “The most important truth I know is that the biggest prison is in your own mind, and in your pocket you already hold the key: the willingness to take absolute responsibility for your life; the willingness to risk; the willingness to release yourself from judgment and reclaim your innocence, accepting and loving yourself for who you REALLY are—-human,

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The 3 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Have in Common

The 3 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Have in Common

Emotionally Intelligent People Have 3 Things in Common. They are:     1. Happier 2. Healthier 3. More Successful This subject of Emotional Intelligence was brought to light in the 1990s when studies began showing people with average IQs were outperforming those with higher IQs. What exactly is Emotional Intelligence? A person’s ability to label, control, express and handle their emotions while recognizing and coping with the emotions of others.  The ability to use both the rational and emotional parts of their brain to make logical decisions. A person’s ability to understand that their emotions are valid and rationalize their feelings. While IQ (Intelligence Quotient) measures someone’s ability to learn, EQ (Emotional Quotient) measures someone’s ability to recognize emotion, understand it and deal with it. IQ and EQ are not related, so a person’s intelligence does not determine their level of emotional intelligence.

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What Mister Rodger’s & My Latest Book Review Have in Common!

What Mister Rodger’s & My Latest Book Review Have in Common!

On a flight home from Germany a few years ago I watched a documentary about Fred Rodgers and the creation of his show, Mister Rodgers Neighborhood. They shared a very sentimental symbol he used to incorporate into his television program that has always stuck with me. 143 Not only did Mr. Rogers keep his weight at 143 pounds throughout his life, but they also explained why the address on his mailbox was 143. I learned it meant: 1- was “I”  4- was “love” 3-was ”you” There were other heartfelt details Mr. Rodgers put into his show so I can’t wait to see the movie! Everyone knows the holidays are coming up so I thought it would be a good idea to do my own “1-4-3” to honor Mr. Rodgers. Book Review of Manuscript Found in Accra I recently read a book by Paulo

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LOOK, LIFE and TIME….

LOOK, LIFE and TIME….

LOOK  LIFE  TIME Many of you might not remember these three words but over thirty years ago they represented the titles of popular magazines when I was growing up. There was something very intriguing about the pictures and the articles they would write about.  I was able to envision what it was like to see behind the scenes and discover what other people were like, it felt as if I was experiencing life and seeing the world through their eyes. I would eagerly wait with anticipation by our mailbox to discover what was happening with people and places I could only dream about which was certainly not occurring in my backyard! The idea of so many possibilities and reading about different cultures and ideals was so captivating to me. Looking back, I believe life was much simpler back then; we had to wait

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How Are You Going to Discover Your True Self?

How Are You Going to Discover Your True Self?

What Smothers Your True Self?  7 Stumbling Blocks Are you like a fake diamond you get out of a bubble gum machine or are you like the Hope Diamond in the Smithsonian Museum? Contemplate the 7 stumbling blocks below by reflecting back on a time these have happened to you and what you would do differently right now! Fear:  We are scared of being hurt, ridiculed and not accepted, so we conform and smother our true self. It is easier to be what people WANT us to be. Doubt: When dreaming about success in one form or another you talk yourself out of it, you don’t attempt to make it a reality. You doubt your ability to succeed. Conformity Is Easier: It is hard to be different and stick out in a crowd because of the judgment and rejection of others. We want

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Spring Forward: It’s Time to Forgive!

Spring Forward: It’s Time to Forgive!

Spring is such a great time to renew yourself! I read a quote a while ago that said; “Hating someone is like taking your own poison.” We all have been deeply hurt by someone. It is difficult to let go because we justify our perspective, but that keeps our pain from moving through us so we can heal. But we must forgive if we want to live a wholehearted and happy life! A great book to read on forgiveness is; The Book of Forgiving, by Desmond Tutu and his daughter Mpho Tutu. They provide a pathway to forgiveness I have personally applied to my life and I found this process extremely helpful. There are four pathways to forgiving; 1.) Telling the Story 2.) Naming the Hurt 3.) Granting Forgiveness 4.) Renewing or Releasing the Relationship Forgiveness is a very personal journey that will

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Have You Built Walls Around Your Heart?

Have You Built Walls Around Your Heart?

Everyone has a heart that needs to be tended to. Have you built walls around yours? I wanted to share with you just a few precious presents that I have received from friends and loved ones that have involve hearts. Many know how much I love and collect hearts, I guess because I relate them to people.  Some are smooth, some have texture, others are big, some are small. I  love all the different variations of this beautiful shape. We ALL have a heart and honoring everyone’s differences and experiences allows us to see the beauty we all have inside. I am filled with gratitude and love and will always hold these treasures and the meaning behind them forever in my heart.  As Valentine’s Day approaches; it is a difficult holiday for many people. During this time reaching out to others is something

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Getting to Know You…

Getting to Know You…

I know I am dating myself but..  Do you remember the song “Getting to Know You,” from the musical ‘The King and I’? I have always loved that song. Just recently, after singing the lyrics I had an “Ah Ha” moment. I wondered, “What if we listened to the song in a different way?  What if we were able to sing this to ourselves and stop our inner critic from taking over our thoughts and attitude towards life?” There is a quote from a book I recently read that states: What you can’t be with, won’t let you be.” We need to learn how to give ALL of who we are, permission to exist. Even parts of ourselves we don’t like. When we are able to see the dark and the light side of our personalities it allows us to become less defensive and it

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