WHAT IS THE TRUE DEFINITION OF VIOLENCE AND ABUSE?

WHAT IS THE TRUE DEFINITION OF VIOLENCE AND ABUSE?

I am OUTRAGED when there is any human being or any other living creature that is forced to endure or witnessed suffering through violence and abuse. Maybe this time in our history is a wake-up call for all of us to address the atrocities that occur each and every day all over the world to people from different cultures, races, gender, and most of all of the children.  The innocent are those who have no choice, no voice, and their only method of survival is dependent on the people that abuse them.  This is a universal dilemma on multiple levels; the current events are devastating and the incidents happening everywhere have an enormous impact; especially on children.  Would it be possible to just go back and think about when you were a child?  All you wanted was to be safe and secure and

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HAPPINESS = REALITY minus EXPECTATIONS

HAPPINESS = REALITY minus EXPECTATIONS

In response to the rapidly changing and uncertain times, I want to continue to offer you content that is useful, applicable and appropriate to what we’re all going through right now. I would like to provide useful information to help see you through this difficult time and empower you to nurture connection within yourself, and with friends, family, colleagues, and the greater world, even as we remain physically isolated. The recent health events have shaken many of our personal foundations because the greater social structure on which we depend upon is no longer safely in place. We are certainly living in uncertain times and we can’t do what humans love to do and that is to predict. When we feel we can predict, we feel more in control. Here is a great visual example that will remind us of the fact we ALL

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ARE YOU WAITING ON THE WORLD TO CHANGE?

ARE YOU WAITING ON THE WORLD TO CHANGE?

THE PSYCHOLOGY TO FREEDOM Are you ready to escape the prison of your own mind? We can be our own jailers or we can be our own liberators, which one would you choose? As I read the following quote from Dr. Edith Eva Eger’s book; The Choice, Embrace the Possible, I felt an immediate sense of empowerment because as a Holocaust survivor who endured unspeakable horrors and brutality, Dr. Eger decided to transform her suffering into a powerful gift—one she uses to help others heal. “The most important truth I know is that the biggest prison is in your own mind, and in your pocket you already hold the key: the willingness to take absolute responsibility for your life; the willingness to risk; the willingness to release yourself from judgment and reclaim your innocence, accepting and loving yourself for who you REALLY are—-human,

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Spring Forward: It’s Time to Forgive!

Spring Forward: It’s Time to Forgive!

Spring is such a great time to renew yourself! I read a quote a while ago that said; “Hating someone is like taking your own poison.” We all have been deeply hurt by someone. It is difficult to let go because we justify our perspective, but that keeps our pain from moving through us so we can heal. But we must forgive if we want to live a wholehearted and happy life! A great book to read on forgiveness is; The Book of Forgiving, by Desmond Tutu and his daughter Mpho Tutu. They provide a pathway to forgiveness I have personally applied to my life and I found this process extremely helpful. There are four pathways to forgiving; 1.) Telling the Story 2.) Naming the Hurt 3.) Granting Forgiveness 4.) Renewing or Releasing the Relationship Forgiveness is a very personal journey that will

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5 Ways to Spring into Action With Choices, Chances and Changes

5 Ways to Spring into Action With Choices, Chances and Changes

Almost EVERY ONE of us has been given the choice to make a change, BUT… if we Chose the status quo, our life has little Chance to Change. Of course, our lives can be overwhelming at times; so before you get too stressed out here are a few tips that will help you and your family have a productive summer! Start each day with one single goal in mind… PEACE OF MIND. Peace of mind means FREEDOM from ANGER, GUILT, and  FEAR! Here is a question you can ask yourself, “What am I able to do today to nourish my mind, body, and spirit?”  You may take a walk, make a phone call, go to the gym. It may be uncomfortable but try it anyway! 1. Eliminate BLAMING others….this will give you peace of mind by giving you control over your life which is what everyone

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Does Hope Really Float?

Does Hope Really Float?

Do you remember watching the movie, Hope Floats with Sandra Bullock and Harry Connick Jr.? It’s about a woman who found out her husband was cheating on her so she decides to go back home with her young daughter to try and figure out her life. I fell in love with this romantic drama even though the reviews weren’t very positive, but what I find interesting is that the soundtrack and the quotes from this movie still resonate with people. While reading an article recently I came across my favorite quote which is, “Beginnings are scary, endings are usually sad, but it’s the middle that counts the most.” Try to remember this when you find yourself at a new beginning. Just give hope a chance to float up.”  I kept thinking about how all of us go through pain and it sure is

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My #Metoo Story

My #Metoo Story

It was May 1975; I was a sophomore in high school and had starting dating a boy for about fourth months that was a few years older than me so I guess you could say we were officially boyfriend and girlfriend.  He had asked me to go to a family get together with him on a beautiful Sunday afternoon and I will never forget the outfit I wore that day, it was a beautiful new crème colored pant suit I had just bought at the mall. It was unusual I was able to do something on a Sunday because being raised in a very conservative Catholic family all of us usually stayed home.  The day felt special to me because he wanted to include me and spend time with him; I enjoyed getting to know more about his family and being introduced as

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OH MY GOSH!!!  WE BLEW IT!

OH MY GOSH!!!  WE BLEW IT!

This month has been off the chart!!  Summer is such a busy time for everyone but I had one priority before it was over and that was getting together with the women who have attended several of my workshops to show my gratitude for their insight and support!  I wanted  to do something unique and create an experience that we would all be doing for the first time, believe me it wasn’t going to be skydiving or rock climbing but an activity that would have a memory for all of us.  During my workshops these women share their stories and trust in each other; we have all laughed, cried and empathized but more importantly have grown closer together knowing that there are people in their lives that see, hear and UNDERSTAND who we truly are!  These women are talented, creative, and up for

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Book Review: Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft

Book Review: Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft

The book, “Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men” by Lundy Bancroft is so informative and eye-opening I couldn’t stop reading it.  I wanted to know “Why do so many men abuse women and what can be done about it?”  Bancroft has worked with abusive men for over twenty years and informs us that EACH year two to four million women are assaulted by a man at some point in their life.  Bancroft’s valuable insight covers: early warning signs ten abusive personality types the abusive mentality problems with the legal system the long difficult process of change If you feel you are trapped in an unhealthy relationship and are trying to make sense out of what is happening… this is the book for you!  For example; one of the most distinct features when you are with an angry or controlling partner

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December Retreat Was a Huge Success

The Little B Inn  in Nelsonville, Ohio was a FANTASTIC getaway for our first women’s retreat!!  The owner of the inn; Miki told us about a  wonderful surprise that was scheduled for Friday evening, we were able to sing along with the town carolers as they sang traditional Christmas carols and also to our delight we were able to witness the town square tree lighting ceremony. The women said they felt like they were in a Hallmark movie!   Saturday we began our personal intentions for the holidays and these group of women amazed me!! They shared their stories and intentions which was what the retreat was all about… being able to trust yourself to tell the truth… we all felt closer to each other because of this special bonding experience.  Saturday night we went out to a fabulous restaurant that is sponsored by a cooking school nearby and the food was unbelievably tasty and fresh!!  Afterwards, the women shopped the

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