TEENAGERS AND DEALING WITH EMOTIONAL DUMPING

TEENAGERS AND DEALING WITH EMOTIONAL DUMPING

Emotional dumping is when someone verbally offloads intense frustration or fear onto someone they think should care and fix it NOW. Chances are that if you are the parent of teenagers or tweens, you have gotten dumped on. Especially in this crazy time we are living in! A good book for parents to read about dealing with their teenagers and tweens is called “Getting To Calm: Cool-Headed Strategies for Parenting Tweens and Teens” by Laura Kastner and Jennifer Wyatt.   For more than 30 years, Kastner has helped parents and children work toward a calmer home environment. This book describes the hormonal aspect as well as gender differences and how parents need to learn how to keep their emotions in check. She states obvious tools: Stepping outside for a moment. Taking a deep break. Thinking of mindfulness or Zen. But more importantly, it

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RELATIONSHIP BUILDING WITH YOUR CHILDREN

RELATIONSHIP BUILDING WITH YOUR CHILDREN

Role modeling what you expect from your child is difficult for every parent, but one is expected to try their best, at least most of the time right?  If a child sees his parents day in and day out behaving with self-discipline, restraint, dignity, and with a sense of orderliness in their own lives, then a child will come to model these same values with every fiber of their being and learn to live this way.  Unfortunately, if a child does not see these qualities than the opposite of this is also true! Remember that wise old saying we always need to “Practice what we preach.” But, one thing that is even more important in building a healthy relationship with your child is love. Even in chaotic and disorderly homes, if genuine love is occasionally present, children can become self-disciplined people. It is

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The 3 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Have in Common

The 3 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Have in Common

Emotionally Intelligent People Have 3 Things in Common. They are:     1. Happier 2. Healthier 3. More Successful This subject of Emotional Intelligence was brought to light in the 1990s when studies began showing people with average IQs were outperforming those with higher IQs. What exactly is Emotional Intelligence? A person’s ability to label, control, express and handle their emotions while recognizing and coping with the emotions of others.  The ability to use both the rational and emotional parts of their brain to make logical decisions. A person’s ability to understand that their emotions are valid and rationalize their feelings. While IQ (Intelligence Quotient) measures someone’s ability to learn, EQ (Emotional Quotient) measures someone’s ability to recognize emotion, understand it and deal with it. IQ and EQ are not related, so a person’s intelligence does not determine their level of emotional intelligence.

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Back to School Anxiety Prevention for Kids

I had the opportunity to provide ideas and tips on how to eliminate stress and anxiety (in yourself and your kids) in school on the Good Day Columbus Show! I show some real life examples of how to create a great environment for your kids to keep track of their homework and kids. I also talk about how important it is to get to know the teachers and other parents, which eliminates a lot of stress and helps you know you’re not along…while giving real life ideas of how to do this. It’s so important not to impose your own ideas of what your kids should get involved with and allow them to choose their own paths. If you loved being a cheerleader, that doesn’t mean your kids will! This can be hard to do but it will make a huge difference in

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