ARE YOU WAITING ON THE WORLD TO CHANGE?

ARE YOU WAITING ON THE WORLD TO CHANGE?

THE PSYCHOLOGY TO FREEDOM Are you ready to escape the prison of your own mind? We can be our own jailers or we can be our own liberators, which one would you choose? As I read the following quote from Dr. Edith Eva Eger’s book; The Choice, Embrace the Possible, I felt an immediate sense of empowerment because as a Holocaust survivor who endured unspeakable horrors and brutality, Dr. Eger decided to transform her suffering into a powerful gift—one she uses to help others heal. “The most important truth I know is that the biggest prison is in your own mind, and in your pocket you already hold the key: the willingness to take absolute responsibility for your life; the willingness to risk; the willingness to release yourself from judgment and reclaim your innocence, accepting and loving yourself for who you REALLY are—-human,

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What Mister Rodger’s & My Latest Book Review Have in Common!

What Mister Rodger’s & My Latest Book Review Have in Common!

On a flight home from Germany a few years ago I watched a documentary about Fred Rodgers and the creation of his show, Mister Rodgers Neighborhood. They shared a very sentimental symbol he used to incorporate into his television program that has always stuck with me. 143 Not only did Mr. Rogers keep his weight at 143 pounds throughout his life, but they also explained why the address on his mailbox was 143. I learned it meant: 1- was “I”  4- was “love” 3-was ”you” There were other heartfelt details Mr. Rodgers put into his show so I can’t wait to see the movie! Everyone knows the holidays are coming up so I thought it would be a good idea to do my own “1-4-3” to honor Mr. Rodgers. Book Review of Manuscript Found in Accra I recently read a book by Paulo

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LOOK, LIFE and TIME….

LOOK, LIFE and TIME….

LOOK  LIFE  TIME Many of you might not remember these three words but over thirty years ago they represented the titles of popular magazines when I was growing up. There was something very intriguing about the pictures and the articles they would write about.  I was able to envision what it was like to see behind the scenes and discover what other people were like, it felt as if I was experiencing life and seeing the world through their eyes. I would eagerly wait with anticipation by our mailbox to discover what was happening with people and places I could only dream about which was certainly not occurring in my backyard! The idea of so many possibilities and reading about different cultures and ideals was so captivating to me. Looking back, I believe life was much simpler back then; we had to wait

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A New Frame of Mind

A New Frame of Mind

What are Your Positive Triggers? We all have had circumstances in our lives that ignite a particular feeling or memory. Some are negative but there also are positive triggers. Trying to understand this about ourselves is confusing! When we begin to pay attention to these triggers by shifting our perspective and reframing our life experiences it provides us with an opportunity to become more aware and in tune with ourselves allowing more positive triggers to occur. How do we know what they are? I like to begin by noticing how I am feeling, we have to remember as human beings we are feeling people that think, not the other way around!  Getting in touch will all five of your senses is a great way to start, especially by being in nature. Seeing a butterfly, smelling an orange blossom tree, tasting the salt from

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How Are You Going to Discover Your True Self?

How Are You Going to Discover Your True Self?

What Smothers Your True Self?  7 Stumbling Blocks Are you like a fake diamond you get out of a bubble gum machine or are you like the Hope Diamond in the Smithsonian Museum? Contemplate the 7 stumbling blocks below by reflecting back on a time these have happened to you and what you would do differently right now! Fear:  We are scared of being hurt, ridiculed and not accepted, so we conform and smother our true self. It is easier to be what people WANT us to be. Doubt: When dreaming about success in one form or another you talk yourself out of it, you don’t attempt to make it a reality. You doubt your ability to succeed. Conformity Is Easier: It is hard to be different and stick out in a crowd because of the judgment and rejection of others. We want

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Tips for Empty Nesters

Tips for Empty Nesters

1. Change is Inevitable. Attitude is Everything! One thing we all know for sure is everything is constantly changing and being uncertain about the future may stir up feelings of anxiety. As our children leave the nest it is our responsibility to learn to access our natural generative energy. Stagnation, despair, boredom, loneliness or indifference leave us feeling lifeless. On the other hand; trying something new, being open and flexible, becoming involved in the life of community allows us to cultivate a more positive attitude as we grow older. Later in life the ego can no longer drive our experience. In his book Shadow Dance, David Richo creates an acronym for the ego’s FACE: F- fear; A-attachment; C- control; E- entitlement.  True wisdom comes when we shift our allegiances from fear to curiosity, from attachment to letting go, from control to trust, and

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Have You Built Walls Around Your Heart?

Have You Built Walls Around Your Heart?

Everyone has a heart that needs to be tended to. Have you built walls around yours? I wanted to share with you just a few precious presents that I have received from friends and loved ones that have involve hearts. Many know how much I love and collect hearts, I guess because I relate them to people.  Some are smooth, some have texture, others are big, some are small. I  love all the different variations of this beautiful shape. We ALL have a heart and honoring everyone’s differences and experiences allows us to see the beauty we all have inside. I am filled with gratitude and love and will always hold these treasures and the meaning behind them forever in my heart.  As Valentine’s Day approaches; it is a difficult holiday for many people. During this time reaching out to others is something

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A Wish For All of You. Let Go in 2019

A Wish For All of You. Let Go in 2019

Letting go is one of the most powerful self-care things you can do for youreself. The REAL definition of self-care is pausing and paying attention to yourself!  It is about working to craft a good daily life. Self-care can be varied, inconsistent and dependent on your current circumstances; but when you slow down, pay attention and ask yourself some questions and listen to the answers self-care CAN become a consistent regular practice.  Here is a suggestion: Make a list of things that make you feel most human. Is it art? Crafting? Reading? Exercising? Meditating? Praying? Cooking?  It doesn’t matter what it is, asl long as it feeds your soul. Schedule THESE into your life for 2019. Hold yourself accountable. Give yourself the opportunity to listen! Sometimes I pause, check in with myself, and realize the thing I need right now is to relieve

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Getting to Know You…

Getting to Know You…

I know I am dating myself but..  Do you remember the song “Getting to Know You,” from the musical ‘The King and I’? I have always loved that song. Just recently, after singing the lyrics I had an “Ah Ha” moment. I wondered, “What if we listened to the song in a different way?  What if we were able to sing this to ourselves and stop our inner critic from taking over our thoughts and attitude towards life?” There is a quote from a book I recently read that states: What you can’t be with, won’t let you be.” We need to learn how to give ALL of who we are, permission to exist. Even parts of ourselves we don’t like. When we are able to see the dark and the light side of our personalities it allows us to become less defensive and it

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5 Ways to Spring into Action With Choices, Chances and Changes

5 Ways to Spring into Action With Choices, Chances and Changes

Almost EVERY ONE of us has been given the choice to make a change, BUT… if we Chose the status quo, our life has little Chance to Change. Of course, our lives can be overwhelming at times; so before you get too stressed out here are a few tips that will help you and your family have a productive summer! Start each day with one single goal in mind… PEACE OF MIND. Peace of mind means FREEDOM from ANGER, GUILT, and  FEAR! Here is a question you can ask yourself, “What am I able to do today to nourish my mind, body, and spirit?”  You may take a walk, make a phone call, go to the gym. It may be uncomfortable but try it anyway! 1. Eliminate BLAMING others….this will give you peace of mind by giving you control over your life which is what everyone

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