“Our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world as being able to remake ourselves.” Gandhi
How do we change the quality of our lives?
The path to wholehearted living isn’t something we master; it is a life-long journey of choices we decide each and every day.
We all have the ability to ask ourselves what part of us do we not like to own or want to deny?
Being able to be kind to ourselves even when we make a mistake, fight with our kids, or forget a lunch date, we are all human it is really less about avoiding mistakes as it is about embracing our humanness. It has been said that what we disown….owns us, but what we master, we own.
When we were born, we were born perfect…we then begin the process to not trust who we are and life starts chipping away at our true self.
Wayne Dwyer states
“Who you are and what you have is from an ego place, the more I have the more valuable I am, what I am what I do, this is called achievement, what I want to accomplish. Competition is I am what others think of me. Ego and who I am is separating yourself from everyone, we are in essence connected to everyone and everything.”
Shifting your focus to unplug and recognize addicted thinking patterns is crucial and begins with three steps:
- Recognition/ Awareness
- Recognize and become aware of your ego. How? Let your true self guide you instead of your ego by letting go the need to control, instead reach outward by connecting and serving others. Our ego self believes who we are is what we accumulate and our true self is looking to find how we are alike, acknowledge the desire to feel that you belong and you are connected.
- Have a plan of action that works for you. Every emotion and every trait we possess helps show us the way to becoming whole. Feeling an emotion without judgment, not over identifying with it, figuring out the gift it represents then letting it go is a PRACTICE that allows us to become more authentic and wholehearted people. Example; I am feeling angry because my friend forgot our lunch date, I acknowledge the feeling, understand that feeling this way is okay, and then letting it go allows me to move forward without resentment.
- Accomplishment is the ability to acknowledge that we are human. As Brené Brown would say “Owning our own story, loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we will ever do.”